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When can I have sex?

You can have sex with a person without breaking the law if you are both 16 and over and you both want to do this. In Queensland, it is generally not an offence for two people of the same sex to have sex, if they are 16 or over.  

It is against the law for a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, brother or sister to have sex with you. This is called incest.  It includes that group if you are related through a de facto relationship, step family, adopted family or foster family. 

It is breaking the law for a person to do any of the following to a young person under 16:

  • touching the young person on the genitals, bottom or chest or somewhere else in a sexual way
  • exposing themselves to the young person
  • taking inappropriate photos of the young person.

If the police or Child Safety Services believe you are at risk of harm because of your sexual behaviour they may ask the court to order that you be placed in the care and protection of Child Safety Services. Get some legal advice if you think this might happen.

What is safe sex?

Safe sex means not swapping any body fluids with the person you are having sex with. Practising safe sex can protect you from sexually transmitted infections (STIs), HIV/AIDS and unwanted pregnancies.

Having safe sex means using a condom every time you have sex. Other forms of contraception like the Pill make pregnancy less likely but do not protect you from STIs and HIV/AIDS. The risk might be reduced if you have sex with the same person, providing the other person is only having a relationship with you and has only had a relationship with you for a long time.

You can get free condoms from the Queensland Aids Council, Needle Exchanges or from some of the agencies listed under ‘Who Can Help?’

When can I get contraceptives?

There is no age limit for buying contraceptives (for example the Pill, condoms) BUT young women will need to get a prescription from a doctor for contraceptives such as the Pill. Doctors are able to provide contraceptive advice or treatment without contacting your parents. You should check your doctor’s practice if this is an issue for you. Usually the Family Planning Association will respect your right to privacy and will not contact your parents.

What about my parents?

If a doctor agrees to treat you, including providing you with contraception, then the doctor must keep information about you confidential.  This means that information about you should not be given to anyone else without your agreement.  This includes your parents.  If you are unsure who to trust contact one of the agencies listed under ‘Who can help?’

STIs?

Anybody can get an STI (a sexually transmitted infection) by having unprotected sex with someone who is infected. STIs (for example, AIDS, genital warts, herpes or hepatitis) are very common and you can catch them easily. You are much less likely to catch an STI from kissing, hugging or massage. Common signs of an STI (except AIDS) can range from itchiness, blisters, sores or a rash around your genitals. It is important to see a doctor if you have had unprotected sex and you think you may have an STI. If you have an STI and do not tell the person you are having sex with, you can be committing an offence for infecting someone else.

What if I’m pregnant?

It is a good idea to talk to someone you trust about what you want to do, as there are choices and you need to understand what those choices will mean for you. If you do not have anyone you can trust contact one of the agencies listed under ‘Who Can Help?’

An abortion is legal if a doctor believes it will protect you from serious danger to your life or your physical or mental health is at risk.  If the doctor has agreed to treat you then the doctor must keep information about you confidential, that is, not tell anyone unless you agree.

Anyone wanting to stop you having a legal abortion or trying to make you have an abortion that you don’t want would need to ask a court to order this. You should tell the doctor what you want to happen and see a solicitor if you are worried about what may be happening.

Can I be forced to have sex?

NO. If you are forced to have sex against your will this is called rape or sexual assault and it is against the law. (See sheet on ‘Victim of Crime’ for more information about this.) This is not something that can only happen with a complete stranger – date rape can happen when the person you are dating forces you in some way into sexual activity that you don’t want. Just because you know the person and agreed to go out with them does not mean that you can be forced to have sex. People who are married cannot force their partners to have sex either. Also you can take back your consent to sex at any time and the other person has to stop or they are breaking the law.

You should get support from someone you trust or contact one of the agencies listed under ‘Who can help?’ to find out what you can do if this happens to you.

What if I’m a sex worker?

It is not against the law for you to work as a sex worker.  It is an offence to ‘publicly solicit’ for ‘immoral purposes’ (for example, hanging around a street corner trying to find a client).

Prostitution is against the law when two or more people work out of the same place and it is not a licensed brothel.  The police can charge you if you are seen to be working with other sex workers and you are not in a licensed brothel.  It is against the law for a person to allow any person under 18 into a place used for prostitution, including a licensed brothel – either as a sex worker or as a client.  It is not against the law for you to work out of your own home BUT you are not allowed to advertise this.

You can legally carry as much safe sex material as you wish (like condoms). You do not have to answer any questions if the police question you, BUT you should give your correct name, age and address.

There are safety and health issues for people working as sex workers. If you are under 17 and working as a sex worker the police or Child Safety Services may decide that you are at risk of harm and apply to the court for a Child Protection Order and put you in the care of Child Safety Services.  Get legal advice if you think this may happen to you.

Who can help?

Youth Advocacy Centre (YAC) www.yac.net.au …………….. 3356 1002

South West Brisbane Community Legal Centre www.communitylegal.org.au…………….. 3372 7677

Logan Youth & Family Legal Service www.yfs.org.au……………… 3826 1500

Legal Aid Queensland www.legalaid.qld.gov.au……………….. 1300 651 188

Brisbane Youth Service www.brisyouth.org.au………………… 3620 2400 (Information and advice about health issues and free doctors)

Zig Zag Young Women’s Resource Centre www.zigzag.org.au…………….. 3843 1823

Family Planning Association www.fpq.com.au ………………. 3250 0240

Qld Association for Healthy Communities www.qahc.org.au ……………….. 3017 1777 (24hrs Outside Brisbane) 1800 177 434 (Free call)

Brisbane Sexual Health Clinic…………….. 3837 5611

Immigrant Women’s Support Service www.iwss.org.au …………… 3846 3490

Women’s Health Information Line…………. 3839 9988 (Outside Brisbane) 1800 017 676 (Free call)

Women’s Infolink…………. 1800 177 577          

Aboriginal & Islander Community Health Service www.atsichsbrisbane.org.au………… 3240 8900

Child Safety After Hours Service (24hrs) (DOC) www.communities.qld.gov.au …………. 3235 9999 or 1800 177 135 (Free call)

Translating & Interpreting Services (24hrs)…………. 131 450                   

Respect Inc (Gold Coast) 4 Bay Street Southport Drop In Mon – Thurs, 12 -3pm ………. 5657 0857 or 0437 000 724 (Info and advice about health, wellbeing, dignity and rights of young people (25 and under) engaged in sex work)

Community Legal Centres (CLCs) see www.naclc.org.au for your nearest CLC

This information was last reviewed and updated in January 2017.  The Youth Advocacy Centre does not accept responsibility for any action or outcome as a result of anyone relying on the information provided.